Squishie Buying Guide: How to Choose Your First Fantasy Silicone Companion

Quick answer

For a first fantasy silicone toy, start with a small or medium size and a soft (00-30) firmness. Choose a model with a tapered tip or gentle ridges—like Pipsqueak or Mancer—so insertion stays comfortable while you learn what texture you enjoy. Check the size chart before ordering; sizing mistakes are the most common reason first-time buyers feel disappointed.

Your first fantasy silicone companion should feel like a discovery, not a gamble. The trick is matching three things to your body: size, firmness, and surface texture. Get those right and even a highly textured toy can feel welcoming; get them wrong and a beautiful piece sits in a drawer.

This squishie buying guide walks through the decisions in the order that matters—starting with size, then firmness, then texture and shape. You will also see how specific Vulpini Design models translate those choices into real features, so you can pick a first fantasy sex toy with confidence.

Start with size, not shape

Most first-toy regret comes from choosing a diameter that looked manageable online but feels like too much in person. Fantasy toys often have knots, ridges, or flared heads that add effective girth beyond the shaft measurement. Before you fall in love with a silhouette, open the size chart and compare the widest point—not the average width—to what you already know your body accepts.

A useful rule: if you are between sizes, size down for your first purchase. You can always add a larger model later, and a slightly smaller toy lets you focus on angle, rhythm, and texture instead of discomfort. Vulpini Design lists Small, Medium, and Large for several models, and Pipsqueak goes from XS to XL, so there is room to grow.

• Measure the widest point of the toy, not the shaft average.
• If you are between sizes, choose the smaller one first.
• Remember that knots and ridges increase effective girth.

Choose firmness for your body and play style

Firmness changes everything about how a toy feels. Vulpini Design offers two options: medium (00-50) and soft (00-30). Soft silicone bends and yields, which makes textured or girthy designs more forgiving and is usually the safer first choice. Medium firmness holds its shape better, which can help with insertion and with pressure-based stimulation.

If you want a toy that stands up on its own or applies steady pressure, medium is the practical pick. If you want a squishy, forgiving ride—especially with knotty or ridged designs—soft is easier to love on the first try. Neither is better; they simply suit different bodies and moods.

• Soft (00-30): forgiving, bendy, good for texture and beginners.
• Medium (00-50): firmer, easier to insert, more direct pressure.
• When unsure, soft is the lower-risk first purchase.

Match texture and shape to your sensation goals

Texture is where fantasy toys earn their reputation. Sasha, for example, has a prominent barbed head ridge and barbed nubs down a gently tapered shaft—plenty of stimulation, but the flexible silicone keeps it comfortable. Mancer takes texture further with insectoid bumps and ridges, and despite looking sharp and spikey, the super-flexible platinum-cure silicone makes it a safe ride.

If you prefer a smoother introduction, look for a tapered tip and a gradual shape. Pipsqueak balances a flexible tip that teases the entrance with a filling round inflated knot, so you get a clear progression rather than an abrupt stretch. The right amount of texture is the amount you can relax into.

• Ridged or nubbed toys deliver more sensation per movement.
• Tapered tips and gradual shafts are easier for first insertion.
• A knot creates a distinct pop—decide if you want that or not.

Consider base features and extras

The base is not just a stopper; it is part of the experience. Damien features a base with 3D silicone fur for extra clitoral or perineal stimulation, which matters if you enjoy grinding. Triton has a base textured with numerous spikes for clit or perineum grinding—intimidating at a glance, but made from very soft, bendy silicone.

Also check whether a suction cup base is available. Damien and Triton both offer an optional suction cup base, which frees your hands and opens up shower or wall-mounted play. If hands-free use is a priority, factor that option into your choice before you order.

• Textured bases add external stimulation during grinding.
• Optional suction cup bases enable hands-free positioning.
• Check option types before checkout so you do not miss an add-on.

Read the size chart like a checklist

A squishie size chart is not marketing filler—it is the single most useful tool you have. Vulpini Design notes that refunds are not offered for sizing choices, so treat the chart as a pre-purchase checklist. Compare the toy's dimensions to a body-safe object you already use, and pay attention to insertable length as well as girth.

If a specification you care about is missing from a listing, treat that as a limitation rather than guessing. Contact the store before ordering when a measurement is not published. A few minutes of checking beats waiting for a toy that does not fit.

• Compare dimensions to a toy you already know works.
• Check insertable length, not just total length.
• Ask the store when a measurement is missing.

Decision rules for your first squishie

• If you are new to penetration: Choose a small or XS size with a tapered tip and soft (00-30) firmness. Pipsqueak in XS or Small fits this rule; its flexible tip eases entry before the knot. Prioritize comfort over features for the first month.
• If you want intense texture: Pick a ridged or nubbed design in soft silicone so the texture stays comfortable. Mancer or Sasha are built for this, and the flexible platinum-cure silicone keeps the ride safe. Soft firmness lets you enjoy more texture without irritation.
• If you want hands-free play: Check for an optional suction cup base before ordering. Damien and Triton offer this option; add it at checkout if you plan to use a wall or shower surface. Confirm the option is selected—it is not automatic.
• If you love grinding: Look at the base texture. Damien's 3D silicone fur and Triton's spiked base are designed for clitoral or perineal stimulation during grinding. Base texture is a feature, not an afterthought.
• If you are between sizes: Size down. Vulpini Design does not offer refunds for sizing choices, and a slightly smaller toy is easier to learn with than one that is too large. When in doubt, smaller is the safer first purchase.

How three Vulpini models map to first-toy choices

• Pipsqueak: Pipsqueak is a fantasy silicone toy inspired by an anthropomorphic balloon dog, with a flexible tip that teases your entrance and a filling round inflated knot. It comes in 5 sizes, from XS to XL. The flexible tip and wide size range make Pipsqueak a strong first choice: you can start small and learn whether you enjoy a knot before sizing up.
• Mancer: Mancer is an insectoid alien fantasy silicone dildo with plenty of bumps and ridges for clit or prostate stimulation. It may look sharp and spikey, but the super-flexible platinum-cure silicone ensures a safe ride, and it comes in Small and Medium. If you want texture without a steep size jump, Mancer's Small and Medium sizes and flexible material let you explore bumps and ridges with less risk.
• Damien: Damien is a fantasy silicone dildo with a knotted werewolf/canine inspired design, a robust knot for a satisfying pop, and a base featuring 3D silicone fur for extra clitoral or perineal stimulation. It comes in Small, Medium, and Large, with an optional suction cup base. Damien suits buyers who already know they like knots and want grinding stimulation from the base—plus the option of hands-free use.

Who this first-toy approach fits

Best for

• First-time fantasy toy buyers who want a structured way to choose size and firmness
• People who prefer soft, forgiving silicone while exploring texture
• Shoppers who want to add a suction cup base or textured base for grinding

Not for

• Buyers who already know they want maximum girth or a firm, unyielding feel
• Shoppers looking for a smooth, non-fantasy shape with no texture
• Anyone who cannot check the size chart before ordering

Your first squishie does not have to be a guess. Start with size, choose soft firmness unless you know you want more pressure, and pick texture that matches how much sensation you actually enjoy. Check the size chart, confirm any optional base, and let your first fantasy silicone companion be the one you reach for—not the one you learn to tolerate.